tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3145812932021037131.post8777658992871155287..comments2021-06-21T04:08:50.218+02:00Comments on Scatha Rising From Ashes: Another "gift" from EFScathahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10142503058944423178noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3145812932021037131.post-87442305003305975312014-12-17T20:52:11.081+01:002014-12-17T20:52:11.081+01:00Oh hun! First time at your blog and had to post :)...Oh hun! First time at your blog and had to post :) <br /> I'm so sorry to hear all you're going through. :( I've been there! Be gentle with yourself. It's perfectly normal to want to give them the benefit of the doubt and think, maybe this time will be different. I pray you find some peace and happiness this holiday season even though depression can be an absolute bitch. <br />Love! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12247739789516504493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3145812932021037131.post-85023900095860496982014-11-07T07:18:34.274+01:002014-11-07T07:18:34.274+01:00Dear Scatha,
I just discovered your blog via this...Dear Scatha,<br /><br />I just discovered your blog via this post. <br /><br />I have been miserable myself, as I am just waking up from the "this time it's different" bait-n-switch behaviour from my own "Father."<br /><br />What you said about "Feeling disappointed and tricked ... " etc is what I have also been feeling. At least I know where I stand with the more overt narcs in the family, but I am waking up to my sneaky "Father" and I do not want anything to do with him. I am undergoing a process of dis-engaging from him until I can extricate him and my siblings out of my life for good, although at times I find it hard not to be suckered back in again.<br /><br />Awful as it was, thank you for sharing that. I have always been so confused over my "Father," and your post helped me. It really does suck and my heart went out to you when I read it. I am a lot older than you and I wish that I had been able to see my "Family" for what it was a lot earlier.<br /><br />Take care of yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3145812932021037131.post-59319988660347786592014-11-05T16:36:48.439+01:002014-11-05T16:36:48.439+01:00Easy answer to why you fell for it again: conditio...Easy answer to why you fell for it again: conditioning and holding onto the tiny thread of hope that one day things will change.<br />They will NEVER change! YOU can change with the help of your therapist.<br />Not easy to accept that your parents are incapable of being decent human beings. You didn't break them. You can fix them. Walk away. mulderfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500535934417551223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3145812932021037131.post-38669242438859189072014-11-05T00:48:47.392+01:002014-11-05T00:48:47.392+01:00This is some fu*ked up bullshit your father pulled...This is some fu*ked up bullshit your father pulled. So now he (again) gets to take credit for something important, say he did it for you, and nobody but you will ever know the truth. He gets to spin his world again, the way he wants to.<br /><br />I'm sorry Scatha. Jeebus. Gladyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03379796403577898107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3145812932021037131.post-43651622657709313822014-11-05T00:36:48.866+01:002014-11-05T00:36:48.866+01:00Oh, Scatha, this just breaks my heart. What a hor...Oh, Scatha, this just breaks my heart. What a horrific, awful, mean thing to do. I'm so sorry that he led you to believe he cared again, only to hurt you all over. It's a hard lesson to learn that you can never, ever, ever take anything from an N without it coming back to hurt you. I know, I've been there too. <br /><br />It is good to hear from you, even if it is under such awful circumstances. I'm glad to hear you are hanging in, despite it all. You are a very strong, brave, and determined person. I do hope that things will get better for you soon and that you'll get a respite from this all. Thinking of you. (hugs) Jessiejessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06399613921768190064noreply@blogger.com