I have been talking to NM about some random stuff, like shopping, and she told me that she hates cashiers since they are always grumpy and rude. I told her that I did not share that experience, because they are always seem nice to me. She then commented that "of course they would be kind to such a good-looking little girl like you" and was winking and making all that sort of meta-communication as if she was implying that the cashiers were certainly all male who were only nice to me because they could ogle me or because they hoped for sexual advances from me.
I told her that this comment was extremely sexist and that I do not welcome it. And as a sidenote, I also told her that by the way, those said cashiers were all elderly ladies. Well, I shouldn't have.
She started screaming at me that I had no right to tell her off as sexist, or any other way, since she was, in fact, talking about elderly lady cashiers to begin with, and no one else, and how rude I was to label her nice elderly ladies as sexist. It didn't bother her at all, that I only mentioned elderly ladies after her first comment. Also, EF seemed to notice no logical fallacies in her reasoning.
I was like WTF, if this isn't gaslighting I don't know what is.
These surely are a crazy bunch of people.
Wow... They really are nonsensical. Hard to explain to someone who hasn't experienced the insanity. She wanted an audience for her complaints. How dare you turn it into a discussion with a different point of view. *eyes rolling into the back of my head* Crazy is exactly right.
ReplyDeleteUgh, I had a similar conversation with my mother over email last night. One second she was confronting me from one side of the fence, the next, arguing with me from the other side of the fence.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely crazy.
"Sweetness" here. Have you gone no contact yet? Maybe it's time. There's no winning with people like your mother.
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