I have found this post a few months ago and have realized that most of these were present in my FOO, disguised as love, kindness, devotion, etc. What really surprised me when I first read it was the reality reinterpretation part was. That I was raised to experience one reality, and re-imagine a completely different one in my head. And obviously believe and preach the latter.
I'm interested in your thoughts about the article.
10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families
Hi Scatha,
ReplyDeleteI think that there is so much variation on these themes that it's worth each of us writing what the Ten Commandments were of our own dysfunctional families. I'll think about this and get back to you with mine.
The commandments resonate strongly with me are Commandments 1, 3, 6, and especially 7 and 8. I learned at a very young age not to show that I cared about anything because it would be taken away or destroyed just because she (my mother) could do it. I still have a very hard time trusting anyone. Funny, they told me not to trust "strangers", that only family could be trusted. As I grew older, I learned that "family" were actually the ones who couldn't be trusted and I learned to like and trust people outside the family, who care for me more than my own family ever has.
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Yes, I had the same experience. "Never trust anyone, but your own family."
DeleteScatha,
ReplyDeleteWow. Great timing, thanks for sharing! If you don't mind, I'd like to do a repost as well. This list is fantastic and I'll be sharing it with DH.
Sure, I am happy that I could find something useful for you :)
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This was very useful and I really appreciate that you found it and posted it. After sharing it with DH he said, "Wow. That described my family to a 'T'." He said every point that I read he was like, "Me. Me. Me." I think stuff like this is spectacular because it speaks to the sad (but important) truth about dysfunctional families. And if you know what's wrong, you can start fixing things.
DeleteGreat Post-Thank you, Scatha.
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I have those ruled tattooed in some recesses of my brain. :p
ReplyDeleteReposting this thought provoking list will hopefully bring it to the attention of others that experienced this. thanks for bringing it to my attention.
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